ANAL TOYS

There tends to be a lot of stigma associated with anal pleasures regardless of sex, gender, or sexual orientation. Some of this is founded in the physical limitations and dangers of anal penetration, but much of it is based in outdated social stigma and direct or indirect homophobia. The great thing about butthole pleasures is everyone can have them, regardless of your body or the body of your partner(s); the anus is a great sexual equalizer, and as long as you know your stuff and your self you’ll be all right.

Experimenting with your butt is best done alone, at least for the first few times, just because it allows you to explore sensations safely and at your own speed. This process can be enhanced by the use of a variety of anal toys. Just remember to start slow; the skin around and inside the anus is extremely delicate, prone to tearing, and very absorbent.  When stimulating the anus, especially if this includes penetration, you want to use a lot of lube (ALWAYS water based and NEVER spermicidal), and you want to take the time to relax your rectal muscles. This takes time and manual stimulation, as those muscles are not consciously controlled. This is why I say to start by yourself, because if it is your first time exploring your anus you don’t know how long this process will take, what it will feel like, or how much is too much.

Now putting a finger in there can be logistically difficult and may not give you the sensation you desire, so there are a lot of other options you can get your hands on. One of the more versatile of these is the butt plug. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and materials, so figuring out what works for your body is important. Butt plugs are bulb shaped and inserted into the anus with the ‘plug’ like base staying on the outside of the body to keep the toy in place. There isn’t the sensation of friction with the butt plug, but it does create a sensation of fullness and added pressure to either the g-spot or prostate, so they are an excellent item to insert and leave in while exploring other sexy pleasures. The removal of a butt plug is the trickiest part, as it’s shape can lead to tearing, so make sure to use a lot of lube on insertion and remove very slowly, adding lube if needed.

Another excellent anal toy are anal beads, or anal wands. These are sometimes the same thing, a combination of sorts, but sometimes slightly different. Anal beads are pretty much exactly what they sound like, a string of beads that one inserts into the anus and then removes (carefully). Never use anal beads that are connected by any kind of actual string or thread, as this material is difficult to sanitize and prone to breaking. There are a variety of silicone anal bead toys which can work wonders, also there are many which have a thicker connective thread with a variable levels of flexibility, which is where anal beads and anal wands cross paths. Anal wands are similar to dildos, except they often have ribbing more similar to anal beads, are more flexible, and are generally less girthy. Anal beads and wands can be used to create a feeling of fullness, and then are pulled out of the anus near orgasm to heighten pressure and sensation on the g-spot or prostate, as well as the anus itself. Stiffer anal beads or anal wands can also be used to create deep anal sensation, depending on their length. It is important to note that any anal toy you use should have a base, as your rectal muscles an actually pull things into your body, and you really don’t want to loose anything up there…

Anal dildos also come in a huge array of styles, materials, sizes and shapes. Some designed specifically for male bodied people, some designed especially for female bodied people, some look just like a penis, and some look like magic wands. What is most important in anal dildo use is finding what works for your body and making sure to use these toys safely, warming up to your dildo and relaxing your rectal muscles is a huge part of this. 

Also, regardless of what type of toy you choose to use knowing what material it’s made of, how to sanitize it, and putting a condom on it whenever possible reduces the risks of bodily harm or bacteria growth on your toys.

So go forth and find the hidden treasures of your anus… you have the tools! Don’t forget the lube.