SHEJACULATION

In relation to my last post about kegels, I would like to present a post for the ladies, or anyone with female genitalia, as I would like to address the “mystery” that is female ejaculation (or shejaculation, as it will henceforth be known). There is a lot of misinformation circulating concerning the topic of shejacualtion, and a few medical mysteries still to be solved as to how exactly this bodily function happens. It’s unclear as to why some female-bodied people can shejaculate, while others cannot; this is usually tied to the ability to achieve g-spot orgasms, however there have been reported shejaculations based on clitoral stimulation alone. If you’re a regular shejaculator or you’ve never come close to squirting in all your days, read on to get some true facts on the subject and advice on how you can try your hand at shejaculation… if you’re into that.

Shejaculation is tied to g-spot orgasms because the fluid that is ejaculated is stored in the urethral sponge, which is called the g-spot when it’s engorged because the lady is aroused. The urethral sponge borders the vaginal wall and from inside the vagina it feels firm and ridged, kind of like a peach pit. You can reach it by inserting your fingers into a vagina and then making a “come hither” motion toward the belly button. When a female bodies person in aroused, clitorally or vaginally, blood flow increases to the g-spot, and the urethral sponge also produces a milky liquid (that is not urine). This fluid is similar to male ejaculate as found in the prostate. Although some urine may come out with female ejaculate, as they both come out of the urethra, female ejaculate isn’t pee, no matter what anyone tells you.

When a woman is good and aroused, enlarged g-spot and all, shejaculation may occur upon orgasm, or quite close to the time of orgasm. This is because orgasm causes contractions of the PC muscles (if you practice kegels you are more likely to be able to shejaculate), and when these contractions relax there is a pushing out of the PC muscles allowing female ejaculate to flow. Now, this may not look like it does in some squirting porn. Some women may projectile ejaculate a large amount of liquid, some women may produce a smaller amount of liquid with less force, and some may not shejaculate at all.  There is not really an established normal way to shejaculate, so enjoy whatever you’re given.

Pressure on the g-spot and vaginal stimulation usually lead to shejaculate educing orgasms, but it stands to reason that clitoral stimulation could also produce shejaculate because (most likely) the clitoris and the g-spot are linked. Now, this business is debated a little, but more and more scientific research is showing that the clitoral shaft (the internal part of the clitoris that runs along either side of the vulva, branching up internally) leads to the g-spot, so these two highly innervated parts of the female genitalia are linked. With clitoral arousal and the right kegels a clitoral orgasms could definitely lead to female ejaculation, but not for every body.

If you have never shejaculated, or you don’t know why you do when you do, here are some tips on gaining more control over your ejaculate: DO KEGELS. The more control you have over your PC muscles the more likely you are to have g-spot orgasms, have longer, stronger orgasms, and be in touch with your vaginal sensations in a way which will allow shejaculation. Also, practice g-spot stimulation; if it’s not something you really like at first, keep practicing! Add g-spot stimulation as part of your masturbation habits. It may feel like you have to pee at first, but remember that’s normal (just make sure you empty your bladder before g-spot stimulation). If you have trouble enjoying g-spot stimulation or can’t reach your g-spot, invest in a toy, maybe one that engages your clit and g-spot simultaneously.

Lastly, create the right environment. If you’re worried or stressed shejaculation probably won’t happen. If you’re concerned about making a mess lay down some towels, if you don’t want to be embarrassed in front of a partner try it by yourself first, put on some nice music, and just enjoy your pleasures.

Remember, not all female bodied people will be able to shejaculate, and this is totally normal. Shejaculation does not reflect on how “good” an orgasm is, it is just something fun that can go along with it. If your partner has made you shejaculate in the past, and sometimes it doesn’t happen, make sure to not let this get inside their head or let them think that shejaculation is a reflection of their performance. Most shejaculaters, who’ve shejaculated their whole lives, don’t have control over when it happens or doesn’t happen. Only you know what your best orgasm is, and shejaculation may or may not correspond, so if this is an applicable dynamic in your sexytimes make sure to be vocal about it.

 With that, go forth and explore your shejaculation potential, or someone else’s (with their consent of course)!